Meet Benji, a male thoroughbred horse with Mickie (his human)
WHY A HORSE SUDDENLY BEGAN BUCKING
FAYE’S VALIDATION
Note: the ‘Validation’ process in Faye’s sessions is evidence that Faye is genuinely communicating with the animal. She knows nothing about the animal except breed and age – and only has a photo to refer to.
Benjii was not born with Mickie. He came from somewhere else where he didn’t live up to someone’s expectations. I saw a picture of Benjii as an ex-racehorse. Benjii has had to learn to trust humans again. He is very forgiving and is an exceptionally loving horse.
(Mickie – confirmed the above)
THE PROBLEM (MICKIE’S PERSPECTIVE )
He started acting up and bucked a few times which made me nervous and I stopped riding. What’s his problem?
BENJII’S CONVERSATION WITH FAYE
EFFECT OF OWNER’S EMOTIONS
Benjii is strong in nature. But, for a male, he is also very caring, loving and more gentle. Benjii explains that Mickie’s emotions felt very anxiety-fuelled (Mickie confirmed her anxiety issues). Benjii says a previous owner who treated him badly also had this anxiety. So the anxiety triggers feelings of past mistrust. So when Mickie is not peaceful, Benjii feels he’s back in the past – and feelings of mistrust surface.
BENJII’S ROLE – AS BENJII SEES IT
Benjii sees Mickie more like a wife. If she’s unsettled, he feels unsettled. Like a husband, he wants to fix things. He feels he has a job to do and wants to lead and help her. The sense of failure created from a previous owner’s disappointment in him makes it difficult.
BENJI’S SOLUTIONS
Benjii’s messages to Mickie:
• ACCEPTANCE, LOVE & ATTENTION
“Please love me as I am. Ride me often. I don’t want to be ridden for anything but your pleasure. I am here to bring joy and love. I am happy to run free. I like grooming, hosing down and walking with Mickie”
• RELEASE FROM TRAINING
“I don’t want interference from trainers. Structure and lessons just take me back to those old racing days”.
• PEACE: “I’m okay. Please be peaceful as I’m feeling reactive to the anxiety. Don’t worry about me, I can look after you!”.
THE OUTCOME
Mickie admitted that she had stopped riding Benjii because of her anxiety. But, hearing what Benjii had to say, gave her the courage to start riding him again – the first time in eight months. The first ride went well. She even had a couple of strides on the trot.
Interestingly, she felt a clear message to release her hip grip a little and leave a loop inside the reign. In short: Don’t hold on so tight. It’s now time to relax and trust.
Benjii and Mickie have been doing heaps of water based play stuff now. She always thought he didn’t like being washed, but sometimes on a hot day now, she just gets the hose out and they have a lot of fun together. He loves getting hosed, which is something she didn’t know before the session.
She has also made a promise to Benjii that there will be no more training or competing – much to his relief.
Mickie says: ” Things are going well now. Benjii seems to be happy for me to ride him which makes me very pleased.”
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